Tuesday, June 14, 2016

I think my therapist may be trying to break up with me...

Hold on a second.  I realize this sounds like a paranoid delusion but hear me out.  

Everyone knows that insurance is obnoxious.  Especially when it comes to mental health, it's hard to catch a break.  When my therapist, an OCD specialist, decided to switch practices, my insurance decided not to cover her anymore.  Nothing about her changed except her location, and they cover other people at her new practice, but they are still giving her trouble.

So, my therapist tells me about this and we try to go about fixing the problem and appealing the decision.  We encounter conflicting answers and no results.  

I was ready to try new avenues, but my therapist comes back at me with something along the lines of, "Well, we will meet one more time for closure and if things don't work out I can always recommend other therapists to you."

Closure?!  What is this, a breakup?

Something about the way she approached it came across as eager to pass me along to someone else.  I'm friendly and self-reflective... I imagine I'm a pretty easy patient.  So why is she so quick to give up the fight?  

Plus, we've been working together for about a year.  Now, I get that OCD must be an obnoxious disorder to treat because it can be the same thing over and over, but this is her specialty.  I feel like it's helping and the last thing I want is to start over and explain all my meshugas to someone else.

If anything this is a tragedy, but really it's just ridiculous.  


  1. I'm sorry to hear about your experience with the therapist. Sometimes things don't work out for whatever reasons. Maybe she is just bored (in general, not with you) and needs a change herself. I hope you can find another equally good if not better therapist that you can work with for the longer haul. xx

    1. We will see! I met with her today and I'm still hoping things will work out with insurance. I just don't want to go through the whole process from scratch again! Oy.

  2. Oh Laura, that's so disappointing -- especially when you feel you aren't ready for closure. You want someone who will fight for you. There was a point years ago when my therapist had to close me because she was ill and quitting practice -- quite a different situation but still upsetting. In the end it worked out very well because I ended up with someone who was an even better fit. You never know so keep hoping!