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It's a nice way to get out of your negative headspace. Sometimes it's so easy to focus on the negative: on the mean things people have said, on the work that isn't done, on the goals that aren't being met. Whether it's anxiety or depression (or both) getting you down, when you're in a negative tailspin, it's hard to remember how much is actually going right.
Some days are easier than others. Any day you see a puppy in a costume is an easy day to think of joy. Holidays and special events are easy too. But even on a bad day, there are still small silver linings if you look for them. On the days that are the hardest and saddest, it still helps to try and pull a few tiny pieces of positive out of the muck.
Some people write a gratitude journal, but I hate seeing my own handwriting. I knew if I tried a journal I would just avoid the exercise rather than look at my chicken scratch. Instead, I pulled my husband in for accountability and we do the exercise verbally, each taking turns saying three things we are grateful for each day before we go to bed.
The exercise has shown me how small changes can make a difference. At first, it seemed like a silly, throw away exercise, but actively taking the time to concretely verbalize the positive really does help lift my mood. Bedtime is a particularly anxious time, and it's nice to end the day on a good note.
I also think sharing the exercise has made it even better. Sometimes my husband and I share the same highs, and sometimes they're different. It's fun to see day to day what stands out to each of us.
Whether you suffer from anxiety or not, I recommend throwing this into your routine. If you like to write, write them out. If you prefer to type, type them. Share the exercise with your spouse or your child. If you live alone, I still think it might be a fun exercise to share with a friend - promise to text each other each night with your top three moments.
With exercises like this, I think the most important thing to keep in mind is not to get down on yourself if you fall off the wagon. Forgetting for a night, a week, or even a month doesn't mean you have to abandon the process. Every attempt is a triumph - an active step away from toxic negativity. If you slip up, you can always try again tomorrow. This is one assignment that won't be graded, and that's just one more thing to be grateful for.
